Kirsty from Winnettes Parenting & Baking blog braves the SLH body confidence Q’s this week with a healthy dollop of balance and a slick of lippy, read on then go drool over her blog for some perfect half term baking inspo!
Name 3 parts of your body that you love and tell us why they’re so fabulous?
I love my hair. It is really thick and I like the length at the moment, although I am not against having it cut. I have had loads of highlights put in which I really really like. Fortunately I am lucky that I also really like my natural colour and so far…. There aren’t many greys.
I love my legs. This wasn’t the case for a long time with pregnancy and post baby body but they are back to a shape I am confident with and they are long! ‘Legs up to her armpits’ my Grandma used to say.
I love my nails. They are really strong and actually get stronger the more water and heat they are subjected to. I was the only waitress I knew that could grow their nails and keep them long. Then when I started nursing they got stronger. I was forever being told they were too long but they just grow so fast I can’t keep up.
Share a memory of when you felt particularly good about yourself.
When I was about 21 I felt really great. It probably wasn’t my healthiest time and I was a bit of a party animal but I worked long hours in restaurants which helped keep me trim. I am getting back to that point again now which is great.
Has your relationship with your body changed over time?
I am more comfortable with my body now. I don’t mind the odd flabby bit so much and I have given up worrying about inches and kg’s. I actually couldn’t accurately tell you what I weigh anymore. I learnt all to late that what I was seeing in the mirror was not actually what was there. I can’t remember what it is called but when I looked in the mirror I didn’t see a size 8 body looking back. I saw something 2 times the size. I was striving for something I already had. It took me years to realise that and it has taken me even more years to realise that it wouldn’t have mattered what size I was anyway.
If you are a parent (or have little people in your life), has this changed how you perceive or discuss healthy body image?
This is a hard one because I think I still have a long way to go to improve my opinions on my own body image. I try very hard not to focus on it anymore and try to simply be conscious of diet and portion control without being militant. I really hope my daughters don’t grow up seeing a false image in the mirror but if they do I think I will know how to help them see the real one.
What advice would you give to your teenage self on the subject of body image?
You are perfect just the way you are. What you see isn’t really there and one day you will realise that. You are what you are and comparing yourself to someone else will not help.
What’s the best thing you’ve ever done for your body?
I stopped concentrating on it. It used to be a large focus in my life and now I try not to care. No longer is ‘my post baby body’ a phrase you will hear me use. I have friends the same age as me with no children and they have still sagged and got a little looser in all the same places, not everything is the fault of pregnancy. Also, I don’t look at the size of clothes I buy anymore because I could buy a size 8 in one shop and a size 12-14 in another. As long as it fits properly it will look good, the numbers are irrelevant because obviously I haven’t increased 2 dress sizes in 10 minutes.
Share one confidence boosting trick for days when you’re feeling a bit ‘meh’.
Makeup. I wear it everyday and never leave the house without it on. Some people don’t understand or don’t see the point but it makes me feel more ‘human’. I feel ready to face the world. If I am feeling a little under the weather I will usually put makeup on and get dressed rather that lounge in my Pj’s because it has the same pick me up effect.
Who in the public eye do you admire for celebrating natural body shape?
Lady Gaga. She has a fabulous body (check her in American Horror Story) and very recently came under scrutiny for a very slight bit of belly during the Super Bowl Half time show. It was pathetic really but her response on Instagram was brilliant. I think she is a great champion of people believing in themselves as a whole and accepting who they are and the body they have been born with. The lyrics in ‘Born This Way’ say it all really.
Give us your best body positive quote or mantra.
There is no wrong way to have a body.
I pledge to love myself a little more today by…
Exercising. I don’t do it at all but I think it is time I actually did something to help my body and mental health. Nothing too strenuous and I know there is no point in running out and buying a gym membership but perhaps some Pilates would be easy to achieve.
Thanks so much to Kirsty for such a positive and inspiring post. If you enjoy this series and would like to take part then please get in touch – I’d love to hear from you!