Eek- I’ve gone PUBLIC!

 

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Hello!

 

When I started my blog 3 months ago I knew I was going to be a secret blogger to begin with. I’m not a ‘proper’ writer. My blog is work in progress and I’ve barely scratched the surface when it comes to figuring out the many different aspects of blogging. The thought of anyone I actually know reading my posts makes me feel a little bit sick. So why go ‘public’ I hear you ask?? Well, it’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot since I started blogging. While I am not a confident writer, I did say in That Difficult Second Post that “I want you to know I am human”. While I enjoyed the security of anonymity I always felt equally uneasy about it,  as if I wasn’t being 100% honest with the reader. I also know that I personally prefer it when I visit a site and can see who the blogger is either through their About Me page or Twitter profile. Oh, and I have an atrocious memory so an image definitely helps me remember and differentiate between all those brilliant bloggers that I want to follow.

 

A couple of things last week helped me make up my mind to ‘out myself’ properly; although my family and I have actually popped up in images within previous posts and I still haven’t quite advertised it to all and sundry, I have decided to change my Twitter profile to a mug shot and added an ‘About Me’ section to my blog. So still *slightly* wussy but if anyone who knows me stumbles upon my blog it would be quite obvious who was behind it!

So what was it that gave me the final nudge I needed? Firstly while I was on holiday last week I had a message from a friend to say that she had started a beauty blog if I wanted to check it out and having enjoyed a large glass of Merlot (the irony) I decided to ‘fess up, come clean, shout it from the rooftops (to the 3 people included in the message, my oldest, closest uni-mates) that I too had been dabbling in a bit of blogging! So that was that. Actual real people knew. Gulp.

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Of course they have been very lovely and supportive with their comments (and fluffed my ego up no end) but that’s what friends do right? Plus I’d kill them if they said anything to the contrary.

 

Secondly I read a great post by Honest Mum, What Other People Think of You is None of Your Business where she talks about trying not to worry about other peoples opinions of you and having enough self-worth not to be shaped or limited by them. You should check it out if you get a minute, she says it much better than I did! It definitely made me consider how much of what we do (or don’t do) is as a result of the fear of being judged. So I put my big girl pants on and went for it.

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I still cringe every time I think about the fact that eventually more and more people I know may read the odd post and I’m not sure yet if this will have any impact on my writing but I know that I feel a little bit proud of doing something even though the thought of it scares the pants off me!

Can any other bloggers relate to this? I would love to know what you think and the reasons why you decided to be a secret blogger or not?

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152 Comments

  1. I can totally relate! A few months in myself!! I fell down by using my Twitter profile that I’ve had for years. About a week in to blogging “properly ” I got a text from my brother saying, “so your blogging now!” My friends have been keeping up too! It was really interesting with my brother, we ended up having a unheard of 50 minutes phone chat about blogging. It seems he is jealous that I’m doing it as he’s wanted too for ages!!

  2. It’s a big step when you unleash something you’ve created into the world, be it a child, a song, a business, or a blog. The thing I found was that once I’d done it, it really didn’t feel like such a big deal anymore, and I wondered why I’d been worrying. I don’t have many people reading my blog but if you’re doing it for fun that really shouldn’t matter. If you love writing, or making videos, or photography, keep doing what you love and relax! #marvmondays

  3. I’m still in the anonymous phase! Mainly due to work reasons, I’m really not sure how my boss would feel about it on a professional level. I figure maybe one day I’ll approach her about it and duck at the same time! Not that I’d ever want her reading them *face turning pink at the thought

  4. Although my blog wasn’t anonymous, I chose to keep it a secret from my family and most of my friends for a long time. It was only when I set up a facebook page last month that it’s all suddenly become public knowledge. There are positives and minuses – I definitely feel slightly more self conscious about what I’m writing now, but most people have been so supportive that I feel the positives outweigh any negatives.

    For what it’s worth, I loved seeing your face up there! #bigpinklink

  5. Well done lovely – I can totally relate I have been blogging for about 6 months and only started telling people about 3 months ago – in fact I only joined twitter about a month ago. I am not sure what I am scared of?!?! It is just tough putting yourself out there. A huge step..definitely worth of a large glass of wine!! xxx

  6. Well done you and lovely profile pic! I have a FB page for people I know and I basically am selective about what I post there. So if I write a post that I’m not confident with people close to me reading, I just don’t post the link there! Enjoy being un anonymous! #bigpinklink

  7. Well done on coming out! And nice to put a face to your blog. I do understand though, I still haven’t yet created a blog Facebook profile yet because I’m a bit scared of it all being Out There! Hope you can enjoy writing as you! #MarvMondays xx

    1. Thank you Cheryl! To be honest I’m not crazy on the idea of starting a FB page for my blog even though I think I probably should, much prefer communicating through Twitter! 😄Thanks for reading xx

  8. And what a beautiful face you have!! I noticed as soon as you tweeted us your link for the linkup!! I love the picture and the quote about flying, and well done you for coming out!! I agree, that I feel I can relate to a blog better when I know the face behind the blog! And it’s something I still mull over, but I’m not ready to reveal myself just yet. I started the blog so I could talk about things I didn’t want people in my life to know about, it was going to be a therapist to me! And I have definitely written posts that would upset some people, but they are still people I’m trying to work out where I stand with, and sometimes I think shove it, if they read it and don’t like me for it, they were exactly the people I knew they were-people I don’t want in my life anyway!! I may do it in the future… Watch this space!! I’ll look forward to seeing more pictures! Thanks for sharing with #bigpinklink!

    1. It’s amazing the difference it makes isn’t it?! I absolutely agree, both options definitely have their advantages and disadvantages and there are so many things to consider when you are choosing which one suits you and your blog best. Nawww thanks for your lovely comments and for hosting #bigpinklink – see you next week! X

  9. I’ve always been a fairly public blogger, but it’s only recently that I’ve started using facebook to promote my blog. Now I have people coming up to me at church and saying that they’ve read my blog. I think it helps me to realise that all kinds of people read it! Well done on going public x #MarvMondays

  10. This is a great post! I can totally relate! My blog is only 2 months old.. Just like a newborn I am protective, unsure and anxious all the time… But like you said.. Big Girl Panties are fun to wear and great fun awaits! P.S… Absoutely LOVE LOVE LOVE your blog name.. Wish I had thought of that! (wink wink)…xoxo #bigpinklink

  11. Well done you, fab blog – def shout about it, I’ll be back to read more & I LOVE the name!! I weirdly find strangers reading my blog a lot easier to deal with then my family & friends. I know a few family members that read and I don’t know if I like it or not!

  12. Good for you for taking the big bad leap into the big reveal! I stay anonymous for two reasons: one. Because I blog mainly about disability, I Don’t want to offend people I know/no me with my controversial posts and two. Future job prospects and the worry that they can find me and potentially higher of fire me because of what I’ve said on the Internet .

    I’m not truly anonymous though, because the majority of my friends and family now know, but I think it’s only really my parents that read it… And unless I write something a bit close to the bone about their parenting style, I don’t have any issues with them reading it. xxx #BloggerClubUK

    1. Thanks Sassy, it’s a weird feeling alright. Yes I understand there are lots of very good reasons to stay anonymous too, like you say it gives you the freedom to be TOTALLY honest which can be pretty cathartic! 🙂 Thanks for reading and commenting x

  13. Congratulations on going public! Great Blog site and love the name!. You also look fab by the way. It would take alot more filters and alot more slap for me before I would dare go that close up! I do know what you mean about people you know reading posts, I worry about what others think but all we can do is give it a go! Happy Blogging

  14. I’m anonymous too, on my blog itself, on my Facebook page and on Twitter, although I do regularly share my blog with friends and family so I know that they have seen my posts. It’s a bit embarrassing when colleagues read it, sometimes, but I keep reminding them that it’s a comic blog, it is based on reality but there is a certain amount of artistic licence used… (at least that’s what I say to them in the hope of maintaining SOME dignity!)
    Good luck with your blog! 🙂
    #BloggerClubUK

    1. Ooh I just found you in my spam (how rude eh??) – didn’t even know I had a spam section in WordPress to be honest 😄
      Yes, you’ve got to go with what feels right- haha yes true you do have a good excuse with your blog! Thanks for reading x

  15. I felt totally the same as you when I first started out! It was my Nana who discovered my page first, and then all my family and friends, who are my biggest supporters 🙂 It gave me the confidence to continue, and now that more people are getting to know my page it spurs me on even more. Congratulations for finding the courage. P.s. your blog is FAB! x #BloggerClubUK

  16. It’s funny isn’t it? I recently read something on a FB blogger forum where a lot of bloggers said they never publish any of their posts on their personal social media. It shows how clueless I am. I ONLY promoted my AbPrab blog posts on FB the first 18 months because I didn’t know about linkies and was terrified of talking to other bloggers lol. But the ‘adulation’ and support the blog got from friends was all important (I thought) in getting it out there and of course lovely to see friends’ reaction. Now I wish I hadn’t because a) most of them don’t see the posts thanks to FB and b) I can’t write about anything tooooo personal.
    Waffle, waffle, God sorry! Well done for ‘coming out’ lol. And your profile pic is gorrrrjusssss and I’m sure there aren’t a million layers of slap on 🙂

    1. Ha ha well your blog is fab however you got there – I love it! Yeah it does hugely affect what you write doesn’t it? Thanks for reading, oh and waffle away I’m as bad 🙂 Aw shucks, stop it you – oh go on then, it was only one (very flattering) filter 😉 x

  17. Ah I know exactly what you mean, although I actually shared mine on my personal Facebook before anywhere else! I think everyone is bored of it now haha. It is scary putting it out there. Good for you though! Love those quotes too. #BloggerClubUK ps aren’t you gorgeous?!

    1. Did you?? A few people have said that, I think that’s so brave 🙈 I love the quotes too, can’t beat a good motivational quote eh?! Aw you can come again haha, eternally grateful to Instagram 😂 Thanks for reading x

  18. I am happy to share my blog with freinds and family and I have posted a few personal pictures but because I blog about the children I like to keep their names out of it. Who knows one of them might be Prime Minister one day and they won’t want everyone to know about their potty training! Good for you to be brave enough to tell everyone who you are – it is scary but we all do this so other people can read it and that should include our nearest and dearest (if they want to!) #BloggerClubUK

  19. Congratulations on ‘coming out’! It’s soneasybti start a blog but putting it out there for the world to see is scary, attaching your face/ self to that is even scarier. I also made the same decision 3 months into my blogging nearly a year ago and I never looked back x #bloggerclubuk

  20. I can totally relate! I’m super public about photos of me and my family on my blog, but I don’t advertise it to anyone in my ‘real-life.’ I’m not really sure why, I guess it just seems kind of weird to me. My blog talks about so many different personal aspects of my family that, even though I share who I am, I’m still anonymous because no one knows me. Maybe one day, haha..
    I love your quotes!! <3 #bloggerclubuk

  21. Eeeek!! I’m so glad you went public! As you know, I would dispute that you’re not a ‘proper writer’; I love the posts I’ve read of yours so far! And yes, there is the cringe factor…wait until someone says “oh I read your blog on so-and-so and I think X, Y, Z…” But I think it’s worth it on the whole… I came to your post via #coolmumclub today 🙂 xxx

    1. Aww thanks so much – that is really nice of you to say, I think I just worry too much about being judged having no previous writing experience .Oh God I’ll be MORTIFIED!! 🙂 xx

  22. Well done!!!! I need to take a leaf out of your book. I still haven’t fessed up to my friends, although if they stumbled across the blog they would be able to work it out! I think you have been very brave and totally doing the right thing. Yaaaaaay Great blog too 🙂 #coolmumclub

  23. HIya, had to jump straight to this post via #coolmumclub first as I’m always a ittle intrigued how this moment goes? Having not done it myself, almost a year in… I think what stops me is the ‘no going back’. I wrote a post about why I’m anonymous, and for me, for now, I think I’ll be staying that way. It may hold back my ‘success’, but for me that’s a price I’m willing to pay. I really admire public bloggers, but also have some faves who are totally faceless. It’s a tough one! You are, of course, very brave and very GORGEOUS! Best of luck x
    Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub

    1. Gahhhhhh terrifying! Yes that’s the thing ‘what if’ people hate it or think its rubbish?! It’s definitely a big decision and I totally understand why for some bloggers its better to be anonymous. I’d say you’ve done pretty well – your blog is ace!! Actually I never really noticed that you’re unrecognisable in your about me bit, very clever!! 🙂 Thanks for hosting xx

  24. What a great post, i was considering this but then I thought i wanted to put my face to my blog and take all the credit! haha also its nice for readers to see about you pages and ive read its a must! as a new blogger its hard putting yourself out there so go you! I’m not following you and will share the love 🙂 #brillblogposts

  25. Oh i completely understand where you are coming from – i didn’t tell anyone initially as was a little wary but now that I’ve got a few blogs under my belt and a few more followers Im OK with it – i do find it hard sometimes to write for me though and not consider that friends and family may be reading but hopefully my voice will get stronger with confidence and I’ll write more for me and less for them! #coolmumclub

  26. I was pretty open with my blog from the start because I knew my family and friends would want to read it, since it’s about my baby and we live abroad, so they’re keen to know what she’s up to. I don’t edit myself too much, but I’m always aware that my grandma and work colleagues might read what I’ve written! #coolmumclub

    1. From the comments it’s really interesting to hear from different bloggers the reasons they did/didn’t make their decision about this – that’s a good rule to stick by – “What would Grandma say?” 🙂 Thanks for commenting xx

  27. I vaguely remember feeling funny about people I knew reading my blog but that soon wore off. Just remember to watch what you say when talking about family members etc! #coolmumclub

    1. Ha ha yes can you imagine?!! I did have to think “Have I talked about anyone in previous posts” before I went public?! 🙂 Hopefully it will wear off for me soon too! Thanks for reading xx

  28. To be honest when I set up my blog it never really occurred to me to be anonymous – but I totally get why some prefer it that way. I do think that sometimes it does stint my creativity a little being public as I’m always aware of who will be reading the posts – from my mum to my mates and old colleagues. But at the same time I think I’d struggle not to tell people – I’m proud of the blog and I’m just not that humble!! 🙂 Good for you x #coolmumclub

    1. I think it’s great that it never occurred to you, means you had the confidence from the start which I wish I had! Thank you for stopping by and commenting and you should be proud, your blog is gorgeous 🙂 x

  29. Yay!! I’ve been ‘out’ from the start and I do sometimes wonder if people are reading and that they know so much about me, where we go, what we do and I know nothing about their lives but I push it out of my head and know that I’m doing it for me and me alone. I have felt that I have to hold back on occasion but also think that that might be quite a good thing, to be tempered by the fact that your parents are signed up to your blog means that the worst of that dirty laundry stays un-aired! 🙂 #bloggerclubuk

    1. Ha ha that’s a very good way of looking at it! I do like the fact it will make my blog a bit more personal, I definitely feel more connected with (and am more likely to remember!) blogs where I can see the writer but I also have of favourites who remain anonymous too. Thanks for reading and your lovely comments 🙂 x

  30. Ah, yes! I still remember the panic I felt sending my first post live six years ago. I was about to say it gets easier, then remembered that I still remove my blog link when I email any of the school mums because I feel weird about them reading them it, haha! xx

  31. Yup, as many others, I’ve been there. I started out thinking I wouldn’t show images of my kids etc. But I prefer blogs where I can see who I’m ‘talking to’, so to hell with it eh?! Gorgeous pics and good luck x #coolmumclub

  32. I’m glad you went public! It’s awesome. I’ve never been an anonymous blogger, but not a lot of real life people knew at the beginning but that was more because I didn’t really know a lot of people lol. #bigpinklink

  33. I think it’s great you’ve gone public by choice! Me…well I went public by accident. I was brand new and started my blog and a Facebook page, and I was about 5 posts in when I got a Facebook notification that someone had commented on something I posted. So as I started reading I was curious, I didn’t post anything. Then to my horror I realized I accidently uploaded the post to my actual Facebook page (as in not the blog’s page). I was so upset, but luckily I had gotten some really good feedback (that’s what the comments were) so I called my mom and she convinced me to keep it live. Here I am a little over a month later. It’s such a relief and a great feeling when I did. I’m so glad you got to experience the same (although less painful) excitement! Best of luck to you!

  34. Well done you! I had been semi anonymous until really recently but I was still chicken and added an about page with my pic surreptitiously without telling anyone…so much more of a gradual and sneaky way to do it. I definitely think you should have more confidence and show off your blogging – your wrting reads really well to me! 🙂 #brilliantblogposts

    1. Hee hee I like it – sneaky beaky… Thank you so much for your lovely comment, hopefully the more I write the less I will worry about what other people think! Thanks for reading x

    1. Terrifying! It’s so silly really but I suppose it’s just fear of being judged. Yes I have to say the response has been lovely though I’m sure they’re just humoring me 🙂 Thanks for commenting, love your blog x

  35. My blog was secret for two and a half years. I had a bit of a bad experience with a previous blog and totally lost my confidence for a few years (long story), then started a new one and decided to keep it private. Eventually I decided that I wanted people to read it, and obviously that wasn’t going to happen if it was private. Best of luck with your new venture, and you will find the blogging community very welcoming. #coolmumclub

  36. Well done for going public! I’ve read a few of your posts and love your writing style, so I’m happy for you that you’re sort of claiming it! It can be scary though, putting your thoughts ‘out there’ as you, but it’s worth it I think. Also, ooh ooh, that’s my quote picture! The one from Charlie and the great glass elevator – this glorious life – that’s me! x

    1. Thanks Madeline, it’s lovely to hear from people who’ve read my posts and liked them! It really does mean a lot. Great quote isn’t it and so appropriate 🙂 Thanks again for reading and commenting x

  37. Yey! Congratulations lovely! I do know exactly what you mean. I’m still anonymous for the most part, my twitter followers are all bloggers (new blogger friends!) But my Facebook page is shared with friends and family so I must admit that this sometimes makes me feel a bit more reserved as to what I post on it. I did share an actual photo /mug shot on a piece for #coolmumclub’s meet the members series, but I haven’t been brave enough to actually add one to my site yet. You must feel liberated and you should be proud! Great post x
    #justanotherlinky

    1. Aww thank you so much! I love your posts I’d definitely be claiming those if they were my work!! 🙂 🙂 Ooh I’m so nosey I’m going to track down that mug shot! Thanks for your lovely comments x

  38. Congratulations! I was in the same boat last year and finally took the plunge. I still don’t really publish my blogs enough but probably should (maybe I need more merlot!!!). Love your name 🙂 just GO FOR IT! X

  39. Hi Charlie, an excellent post that I think will have many bloggers nodding their heads. I was never a secret blogger (which was why I avoided FB, where people know me for real), but I never really advertised the fact I blogged either.

    It’s only been in the last few months that I’ve started sharing my posts properly and it’s been a positive experience, with some people saying they enjoy what I write (still makes my toes curl, but in a nice way).

    I loved that post by Vicki on her Honest Mum blog, she shares some wise words indeed.

    Congratulations on coming out and thank that glass of Merlot for getting the ball rolling. I’m sure you are going to enjoy many years of blogging with plenty of positive feedback.

    xx

    1. Aww thank you for your lovely comments Debs, I appreciate it. I know what you mean, I still don’t think I’ll really talk about it with my family or friends that much. Glad to hear you got a positive response from friends, it definitely helps to boost confidence! Vicki has a great blog, so much positivity, I love it. Thanks again for reading and commenting and good luck with the blogging 😄 x

  40. For me, blogging is part of ‘living out loud’ and therapeutic. I even post my blog url on my email signature. Sometimes posts that I share are scarier to be public than others…but its part of my being authentic. Bravo on your bravery! #FabFridayPost

  41. It was weird at first. I’m a year in and it still sometimes feels like I’m looking around at work, wondering who is reading my blog and talking about it. It gets easier.

  42. I can completely relate! I initially started out with completely seperate blog social media accounts but slowly and surely I’ve integrated and now if people I actually know stumble across it I breathe very slowly and hope they don’t talk to me about it haha! I no longer hide my blog but I don’t shout it from the rooftops either

  43. Aww congrats! So lovely to be able to put a face to the name (as they say 😉 When I started blogging a few years back I was pretty anonymous too, having a logo rather than an actual pic, I think possibly out of nervousness of anyone from “real life” stumbling on my little blog. But then I realised that you kind of have to go for it, and not having a pic etc was actually holding me back from being able to share everything in a way that felt really authentic. So I completely get where you are coming from 🙂 Its a great scary step forwards, but im sure it will be totally worth it for you too. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Emily

  44. Hello , what a lovely post.
    Reminds me of myself when I first started blogging and when anybody I knew used to read my stuff! I used to cringe but now I embrace it and I send all my friends links ! Then they have to read … But they still don’t comment!!
    I actually prefer to know what the person writing the blog looks like. It makes them more familiar
    Thanks for sharing xx

  45. I was quite happy hanging out on twitter blogging in a crowd where no one really new me apart from 1 really close friend who has always been supportive of my blog hobby. I recently set up a Facebook page where I knew I would come out of the blogging closet and it is friggin terrifying! I am feeling quit sick about people I know reading my darkest and Ranty thoughts but like you say if you were worried by what everyone thinks then life can be pretty limiting and that’s what I keep telling myself (in between throwing up) x completely relate to this

  46. Have you found a different response to your blog now you have revealed your secret identity?

    I’m semi anonymous with enough links to know it’s me, I just don’t want to formally stamp my name on my blog yet.

    A handful of family and friends know but the topics I cover aren’t generally something they would read unless they were in a similar position. My blogs a bit more varied now but I know some family would find it a very hard read if they read the earlier posts.

    #PickNMix

    1. I don’t think so. though there are still lots of friends and family who don’t know! I was writing my first post since being ‘out’ this morning and I am definitely more aware of what I’m writing , though trying not to let it affect me too much. Thanks for reading x

  47. Good for you! Still a constant dilemma for me. Was completely anonymous, dropped it to be a HuffPost blogger, so then thought I may as well have a facebok page, which is pretty impossible to keep entirely anonymous. But I still use no pictures, and the blog name not mine wherever possible, and don’t go out of my way to highlight the link between the names. #coolmumclub

    1. It’s funny the lengths we’ll go to to maintain our anonymity 🙂 – I think I’d just end up accidentally posting to my personal fb page or something if I started a facebook account for my blog!! Thank you for reading and commenting x

  48. I can completely relate. I recently wrote a similar post called Coming Clean actually. Because my blog features mental health quite heavily I was pretty scared to go public. I told my nearest and dearest very early on but recently decided to out myself on Facebook in aid of Time To Talk. The reaction has been so amazing and positive that I’m so pleased I did it.

    I know what you mean about cringing though – for some reason it is so much harder knowing someone close to you may read a post than a stranger, isn’t it? x #justanotherlinky

  49. I totally tried to stay anonymous too, but then TheMighty.com wasted to reprint a post and asked for a photo and brief bio – EEK! I was totally thinking about not doing it, but then said to heck with it. When a third post of mine was published on TheMighty.com just before the new year it received some negative comments and there i was all attached to it and it was awful and I thought about throwing in the towel on this blogging thing, but I came back to it. As long as you enjoy what you are doing, others will too. If anyone has a problem with me or my life then so be it. I do work for a group of conservative politicians so I haven’t exactly shouted it off the rooftops, but who I am is out there if anyone goes looking and my pic is attached to my Twitter profile. I have not posted any current pictures of my daughter’s face due to her adoption. Great post! Thanks for sharing and inspiring! #FabFridayPost

    1. oooh that’s amazing – get you! Oh no, I’m dreading any bad comments, I’m such a wuss but I suppose that’s a risk for everyone right? Well done for carrying on regardless. Thanks for your comments x

  50. When I started I was anonymous too! I think I lasted about 3 months as well partly because I read that if I ever wanted it to become more thank just a hobby (jury is still out on that one) then it works better if people can put a face to a name… Well done you on taking the plunge I am sure you won’t look back. Thank you for joining us at #BloggerClubUK hope to see you again this week x

  51. I feel the same! My blog is still pretty much a secure, although a few people I know do know it’s a select few! I just have no confidence and I do care what other people think. Maybe I need to read Honest Mum’s post! #BrilliantBlogPosts

  52. Yes, Yes, totally relate to this! I have managed to keep my blog private for nearly one year, yep, one year. I initially wasn’t sure if I’d keep it up and also like you say I am not a confident writer (English not being my first language) so I didn’t want to tell people in case they laughed or in case I gave up after 2 months. I am now “coming out” and telling friends and amazingly they have all been ok, I was expecting people laughing but no, everybody has been fine, they are more surprised I didn’t mention anything for a year
    #fabfridaypost

  53. I don’t know if updating on Facebook status counts as blogging anonymously. I found that since becoming a parent some of my female oldest friends from uni – who is still living on the high-life did not understand some of the stuffs I was posting, eg: discreet breastfeeding in public, etc. I felt like screaming from my rooftops and that’s probably why I wanted to start my own blog. I didn’t kept quiet about it – I just posted on fb… “I have decided to be a blogger.” There were many likes. So I went for it. I still haven’t written a thing about discreet breastfeeding in public yet as I am too busy learning what in the hell blogging is. It is a funny old world, but it is great. I love blogging – it is such a great outlet for all kinds of things and I love reading and meeting other bloggers too. I think it is great that you took the plunge. Well done and Good Luck! 🙂 x Thank you so much for linking up with #FabFridayPost

    1. It’s definitely a great way to get things out of your system isn’t it? God there is soooo much to learn isn’t there – one day you’ll get round to that post! 😉 Thanks for hosting x

  54. Hi Charlie, I found your blog and post through researching Linkies. I loved reading this post on coming out. I am a total newbie to blogging at only 10 days and even though writing was a big part of my career this is terrifying and liberating at the same time. I am anonymous at the moment, partly because my blog is an irreverent look at parenting teenagers and I am not sure they would appreciate their faces being attached to the stories. My husband thinks I am mad not to tell my mates at least but I want to find my feet first. Also loved your post too on why you started blogging. There is so much to learn and I have a long journey ahead. Good luck with being out there.

  55. Woohoo! So touched that my post encouraged you to show your gorgeous face and GO FOR IT! Fear and self-doubt tries to stop and sabotage us all but the important thing is to push through it and never let it win. We must bravely follow our hearts and dreams. Fear is a good thing, it tells us we really want something. Yay, this post has made my day! x

    1. It really did help so thank you! It’s crazy how much we worry about what others think isn’t it? I’m hoping to encourage my daughter (and my son) to have the self confidence I never had growing up, so so important esp for girls. Yay for amazing role models (that’s you!) for women 💪🏻 x

  56. Hello Charlie! You know, having been blogging on my beauty/wellbeing blog Glowology for a couple of years, I have no qualms at all about ‘coming out’ as a blogger and having whoever read my stuff. That could be because I’m a writer by trade so have been used to it over the years 🙂 But NotThoseMums is a new blog I’ve set up with a fellow journo friend of mine who also feels the same as you – a little bit apprehensive about going loud and proud, so I do understand. But, I think there’s been so much awful stuff about trolls being horrible to bloggers etc and that could put people off. However, I can assure you, in the lifestyle/parenting/beauty blogosphere, I’ve only had positive feedback and have met some lovely women. We are all different and have different points of views etc, but there is room for us all and lots and lots of support! So good luck with it all – your blog is fab and you write as if you’ve always been writing! Good luck with your journey and I hope to keep in touch along the way!! #brillblogposts

    1. Oh wow, thank you so much for your lovely comments, this is my point exactly, people like yourself taking the time to encourage other not so experienced bloggers. It is very nice of you to read and comment, it really means a lot coming from an ‘actual’ writer! Yes hope to keep in touch and will be following your blog (actually I am literally following your blog and also share your love of Marian Keyes) 🙂

  57. Oh I totally get this, I walked into School to pick up my boys and realised so many of the Mums now follow my blog and know so much more about me than I do about them. Moments like that kind of take your breath away in a panic but mostly I’m ok. I was never a secret blogger I just didn’t let anyone that really knew me know about it for a while. Well done! Thanks for linking to #PickNMix

  58. I’m not a secret blogger because I actually do not care or give a damn if people judge my blog. It’d hurt a little but then I’d think … they haven’t had a success of a blog before. I have nothing to hide . I have worked hard to where I am now.
    I do put my hands up to the secret bloggers, I would somehow slip a name or the girls names if i was one!
    Thank you for linking up to #justanotherlink

  59. It’s definitely scary when you think you are ‘out there’ for the first time so well done on your bravery and taking the leap! I find that blogging is actually very empowering – to say things how they are, without a veil of secrecy and to have your thoughts and comments acknowledged and embraced. It’s validating. Sure, you may get the person who disagrees with you but I also find that as long as I am being true to myself, the disagreers don’t bother me. In fact, it is life – not everyone will think the way you think, we have to accept all viewpoints. Great post and keep blogging!

    1. That’s true, it feels more authentic to me now but it’s a personal choice so I can understand why a lot of people choose to stay anonymous. Thank you so much for reading and commenting x

  60. Im a kind of ‘secret’ blogger in that I dont talk about it ‘real life’ but its linked to all my social media accounts so ppl would notice. I did have someone ask me why my Instagram name had DMM appear at the end of it and I just simply said its the brand for my blog. No response back ha ha
    I still havn’t wrote posts that im gagging to write because im scared of the comeback from them, one day ill let rip! #FabFridayPost

  61. Im exactly the same… my blog is still a work in progress and i think the only person that has read either of my grand total of two posts is my mother! I am hoping to make it a bit more fluid and easy to navigate before shouting it from the rooftops… its so difficult making that transition. x

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